Eat/Drank

Bourbon Peach Tea (A Big Batch Cocktail)

August 22, 2016

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If you were able to join us at our Sip n Shop event at Brightside Boutique (THANK YOU! We had a blast!), we hope you got to try the Bourbon Peach Tea we made with peaches from the Fell’s Point Farmer’s Market. Super easy, full of delicious summer peaches, and a real crowd pleaser—definitely the thing to bring to that end-of- summer BBQ. The sweet peach nectar masks the bourbon well, so watch out! If you didn’t get the chance to try it, we’re sharing the recipe for you to make at home. We think you’ll love it!

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Bourbon Peach Punch

  • 8 peaches. Aim for half ripe peaches and half firmer peaches (more on this later).  We used a mix of yellow and white peaches, but you can also use yellow or white nectarines or any combination of the four, depending on your preference.
  • 6 cups unsweetened black iced tea.
  • 4 cups lemonade. 
  • 2 cups  bourbon-of-choice. We recommend
    Jim Beam or above, in terms of quality.
  • 1 cup light brown sugar.
  • 1 cup water.
  • Ice.

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Cut peaches into slices, and separate based on ripeness. Pour 1 cup bourbon into a container with slices from 3.5 firm peaches and set aside.

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Pour 1 cup water, 1 cup brown sugar, and remaining firm peach slices into a saucepan and heat on low for 30 minutes. Add slices from 4 ripe peaches to a blender and mix with 1 cup lemonade. Blend until liquified. Pour mixture over sieve into a large punch container (ours was 2 gallons, with a spout for easy access) and strain peach purée.

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Mix in brown sugar simple syrup, iced tea, remaining lemonade, remaining bourbon. Chill. Add ice and bourbon-soaked peaches to the mixture right before serving.

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Tag your pictures with #30thandweldon so we can share them on our Instagram. Enjoy!

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Thoughts

Navigating a Long-Distance Relationship

August 10, 2016
Navigating a Long-Distance Relationship

At the end of March, my partner-in-crime/better half/biggest fan/etc was offered an amazing opportunity to move to California for the summer doing work that puts his talents to good use. If you know me in real life or follow my personal social media presence, this isn’t news. I haven’t been able to shut up about it for the past few months. While he took his time making this decision, for me it was a no-brainer—take the damn job! We talked it through and, although it wouldn’t be the fun summer together we wanted, we were both confident it was something we were equipped to handle. My love for this person is bigger than a four-month period and while I miss him like crazy, I’ve instead decided to focus on the fact that the current situation is fleeting while my feelings for Devlin certainly are not. He left at the end of April and these past almost-three+ months have proven to be a learning experience, to say the least.

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Let me say this: this post isn’t about survival. The working title for this post was ‘how to survive a long-distance relationship’ but as I wrote it I realized that that puts a negative spin on a situation that already can feel negative. Instead, this post is about focusing the energy felt from these feelings of sadness and loneliness and turning it into something productive. It has been incredibly easy for me to feel sorry for myself this summer and only see the bad. Sometimes, I need to feel sorry for myself but when I look at this summer as something I need to survive, it just sets me up to feel like there will be no good moments, just bearable ones. This also isn’t me trying to give anyone ‘tips’, but rather my own personal journey in navigating a long-distance relationship. I am sorry to say this isn’t going to be an easy-to-read listicle. I tried writing that post because it’s easy but it wasn’t genuine (and when talking about feelings, something I’m already really really bad at, I think it’s important to be genuine). This post is intended to help navigate the very real and very valid feelings associated with not having your partner with you by your physical side (important to note: if they are truly your partner, you don’t need to be in the same city/state/coast/country to be there for one another).

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There are people in this world to whom the reality of a long-distance relationship is much more permanent who could probably provide a great deal of wisdom on this topic but I already feel like I’ve learned so much about myself throughout these three months. For the first time in my life, I am living alone and am learning how to live with myself. It’s easy to binge watch every Netflix Original series on a day off but easy isn’t productive. I let the dishes pile up in the sink without having someone to hold me accountable and I’ve learned that dealing with a two-week old sink of dishes is way way way worse than just putting the damn dishes in the dish washer at the end of the day. I also very quickly was hit with the reality that the person I lean on for emotional support more than anyone else wasn’t physically there with me but that he could still be there emotionally. Within the first week of Devlin being gone, our kitten Franklin got very sick and had to be put down. Franklin was my first pet and we had adopted him just seven months prior. This wasn’t something we were expecting to have to deal with so soon, and certainly not something we expected to go through apart. I learned to lean on my friends and other people in my life who care about me for that physical support. I also learned to work through some of these feelings on my own.

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I’ve learned that It’s okay to feel sad/lonely/lost/etc. Like, it sucks. Yes, it’s important to see the good in every situation, it’s totally okay for me to take a minute and say “hey, I’m lonely right now, and this fucking sucks”. I don’t ever want this to consume me, but it’s also a feeling I’ve found is very important to acknowledge.

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I’ve also learned that it’s also okay to feel happy and have fun. Your world does not stop because your partner is not next to you. At first, I would feel this sense of guilt for going out with friends and having fun. I started to process that guilt and I realized I was feeling that way not because I actually felt guilty about enjoying myself but because I wanted to share it with Devlin. I wanted him to be there when I was doing something fun to enjoy it with me. I would see something that would’ve made him laugh (or would imagine some commentary he would have on a situation that would would crack me up) and I’d get upset he wasn’t there to experience it. It was incredibly important for me to remember that my life is multifaceted and enjoying my summer is 100% allowed!

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It helps to have something to look forward to. I took a trip to the Bay Area this summer and for while I was mentally counting down to that. Then, Devlin came out to visit. I also always look forward to our FaceTime calls at the end of the day, or a phone call while I waited for the bus. And of course, I look forward to non-bae related things. This entire summer I’ve looking forward to all of the awesome 30th & Weldon stuff going on this summer—the launch of our store, the amazing events we attended, our feature in the Baltimore Sun, and the two events we’re hosting (BMORE Babes & Sunday at the Mill).

The ability to take time to myself at home is not something I’ve gotten to do before. and like I said before, at first it was this incredibly lazy “I’m going to watch TV until 1am and not do the dishes and have laundry piles all over the house and order takeout 4 times a week” but now it’s turned into something much more positive. Although not spotless, I have started to take the time to clean and organize the apartment. I have taken the time to make cold brew and do some real cooking and meal prep. I’ve been reading (what? me?! reading??) and have been journaling. I’ve spent a ton of time on doing a lot of back-end work for the business too (which is important, because *maybe* one day this can be a full-time thing so the more time I put in the better).

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While it hasn’t been an easy summer, it has definitely been an important one. I’ve learned a lot and will continue to learn every day. I’m so grateful that this has an end date and truly celebrate folks who deal with distance in a relationship on a much more permanent basis. It has been a summer of ups and downs but it has also let me appreciate my relationship so much more. I’ve spent more time on the phone than I ever have (I’m looking at you, nights of 5 hour phone calls).

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For any readers who are currently going through this or have in the past, how do you navigate a long-distance relationship? I’ve got about a month left and am still learning—I’d love to hear from you.

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30th & Weldon x Brightside Boutique x Aesthetic Distance

August 4, 2016
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We teamed up with local shop Brightside Boutique and photographer Eliza Romero-Kovalsky of Aesthetic Distance for an on location shoot throughout Fell’s Point. We chose some of our favorite outfits from Brightside’s current collection and created some magic—we’re excited to share them with you.

Join us for BMORE Babes: A Summer Sip & Shop Event at the Fell’s Point location of Brightside Boutique on August 20th to scoop up all the outfits featured in this shoot. Punch will be served plus 20% off all clothing! Brightside will also be releasing a new custom-designed Baltimore print that is absolutely gorgeous!

Make sure to RSVP on Facebook to let us know you’re coming & check out the photos from the shoot below.

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Photography: Aesthetic Distance
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Wardrobe: Brightside Boutique
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Hair & Make Up: Courtney McCormick
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Life Hack

Level Headed Leadership in Crisis

August 1, 2016
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Staying level headed and calm in tense, frustrating and/or stressful situations can be difficult to say the least. Maybe you’ve had a disagreement with a coworker or have to mediate workplace drama.  Perhaps an awkward and potential throw down is occurring over politics at a family gathering.  Maybe your business was just robbed and it was scary and now you have employees and customers to calm down.  Perchance your wife forgot every college professors’ warning regarding plagiarism and very publicly stole someone else’s speech. Crisis management nightmares come in all shapes and sizes and always have the potential to spiral out of control quicker than Grandma can punch Uncle Ben in the nose.

Over 6 years of working in customer service and 26 years of dealing with people in general, has helped me hone the craft that is crisis management. During stressful situations the burden of leadership often falls to one person or a small group of people. Don’t be caught unprepared for your next crisis! Below are a few take aways on how to navigate a crisis like a true boss.

  1. Recognize the importance of your actions: It’s in those crucial moments of crisis that we define ourselves as a leader. Recognizing that everything you say and do in this window of time can directly escalate or deescalate the situation you have found yourself in.
  2. BREATHE: basic but important!
  3. Take it slow: Jumping to conclusions, moving too quickly, not gathering all the information first are rookie mistakes. You run the risk of looking like a real ass if you don’t get all your facts straight before approaching a scenario. Additionally, speak slowly. When tensions run high I often find myself  rushing through my words, letting my feelings take over and speeding through my sentences as if the faster they get out the quicker the whole thing will be over. Think about your words as they come out of your mouth and speak as calmly as possible.
  4. Be honest: Be upfront about what you know, what you can share with your team or parties involved, and what you can do to rectify the problems at hand. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Don’t talk out of your ass in an attempt to make something go away. If you don’t have the answers, it’s okay to say “I’m not sure, but let me find out. I’ll get back to you.”  And then make sure to figure it out and get back to them.
  5. Keep a brave face: If you are in a leadership position or get thrown into one, remember that you are there for a reason! Someone trusted you and is looking to you to lead them out of Egypt. This means you do you best to keep a calm exterior and lead the way for those behind you.
  6. Don’t take it personally: Shit is gonna happen. Rude words are going to fly, feelings are going to be hurt, someone is going to be upset and not everyone can win in the outcome. This doesn’t mean you have to dwell on it forever. In the words of Queen Elsa, “let it go.” Once a problem is done and dusted it’s best to keep it that way. If you continue to harp on things it’s only going to hurt more.

Damage control is never a fun task but I encourage stepping up to the plate and dealing with it like a boss rather than stepping to the sidelines. Not only does it build character (like eating your vegetables) but it also helps you build a skill set that is invaluable in family and friend circles, the workplace and during personal crisis.

Eat/Drank

Muffin Cup Breakfasts – Two Ways

July 30, 2016
Breakfast

I recently made a life decision – I’m taking a big trip next year. This past year pretty much all of my travel has been wedding related because seemingly all of my friends got married in the same year (thank god I don’t have that many friends – that shiz is expensive) so next year is currently wedding free and I’ve decided home girl has earned it.

While I may feel as though I have earned it, that doesn’t necessarily mean I can afford it. I’ve needed to tighten up my finances for a minute, and having a goal is the perfect way for me to do so. When I really want something, I can be a real “dog with a bone” as my mother called me countless times growing up. I’ve been putting off really budgeting myself – but was reminded about it by The Office Goth a little while ago, and have finally decided to buckle down and do it.

I started with updating everything in my Mint account to make sure it was accurate and all of my accounts are there. I like Mint because you can see everything in one place, as well as use it for budgeting. One of my first transaction searches threw me for a complete loop: Starbucks. Okay, I’m not a complete fool, I know my daily ‘Bucks was adding up. But seeing that number from the last 6 months and realizing I could nearly pay for my flight in coffee alone was truly shocking. So I set out to change.

I made my cold brew, I picked up a few extra mason jar lids. But eating breakfast has always been a struggle for me. I’m not a morning person – no matter how hard I’m trying to be – and I just can’t eat as soon as I wake up. I end up with a rumbly tummy around 10 or 11 am, which leads to bagels and croissants being added to my mobile order. So I sought to find some easy breakfasts I can make ahead and bring to work.

I’ve found two easy breakfasts that can be made in muffin cups and frozen, so I can just grab two and microwave them at work. The best part is they are totally customizable, so you can add anything you’d like, and mix them up seasonally or based on whatever you have laying around. I made 1 batch of each, which is enough for two weeks of breakfast! Perfect for prepping on a Sunday afternoon and you’ll be good to go for the whole week. Here’s what you need:

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Oatmeal Cups:

  • 1 Cup Organic Steel Cut Oats (I used Harris Teeter Brand, another brand may have different instructions for 4 servings)
  • 1/2 Cup Brown Sugar, Packed (optional)
  • 1 tsp Cinnamon (optional)
  • 1 Banana, 1/2 cup of Frozen Blueberries (optional)

Follow the instructions on your oatmeal for preparing, I used the stove top directions for preparing 4 servings of mine. Add in what any mix-ins, I used brown sugar and cinnamon, but you can use anything you like. Coat your pan in cooking spray, or use cupcake liners, and fill with oatmeal. Top with whatever fruit you would like. Refrigerate for a few hours to cool, then freeze overnight. The next morning, pop them out of the pan and freeze in baggies or containers of two. (2 muffin cups = 1 serving)

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Egg Cups

  • 1 dozen eggs
  • Salt & Pepper (to taste)
  • Garlic Powder, Red chili flakes, Salsa, etc (Optional)
  • Veggies – Ex: Tomatoes, Broccoli, Spinach, mushrooms (Optional)
  • Bacon Bits or crumbled Sausage (Optional
  • Cheese (optional)

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Preheat oven to 350F. Crack all eggs into a large mixing bowl. Salt and pepper to taste, and add any other spices you’d like. Think of your favorite omelette or egg scramble, and use those things! Grease your muffin tin well or use cupcake liners, and pour in your whisked egg mixture. Top with whichever toppings you’d like, I used broccoli and tomatoes in half and Monterey Jack cheese, bacon, and tomatoes in the other six. Bake for about 20-25 min, or until a toothpick comes out clean. Let cool fully, then divide into baggies or containers of 2 per and freeze. When preparing, I like to use a little ketchup, but Sriracha would probably work wonders too! I know Shae carries it with her at all times, so I’m sure she’d agree.

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To reheat, place either muffin cup in the microwave for about a minute, depending on the wattage of the microwave. I stop the oatmeal ones about 45 seconds in and stir, then decide how much longer. Super easy, filling, and way way cheaper than my daily bagel – and healthier!

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If you have a super easy breakfast to go, what is it? I’d love to get more suggestions for my money saving! Let me know in the comments.

 

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